Sincerity Sunday: On Self Improvement Overwhelm

In a few days, 2015 will begin. I always look forward to the clean slate feeling that January 1st brings. By that time, I will have printed out as many worksheets as I could get my hands on, and bought a new planner and wall calendar. I'll set intentions for the upcoming 12 months: intentions that, if I'm honest, may not come to fruition. But I love it. I love the potential, the opportunity, the possibility that lies in the liminal space between two years.

This time of the year, we're bombarded by e-courses, manifestos, and books promising to make you the "best version of yourself". Normally I'd eat them up, but this year something's different. Every time I see another one of these, I feel exhausted. Or frustrated. Does the world really need another self help manual that will start collecting dust by springtime?

I'll be the first to admit that many of these programs or products are high quality and have helped countless people become more productive, successful, and even joyful. At they're heart, they're good. However, I realized the reason I was collecting them so greedily was because I believed I needed them. That I wasn't good enough without completing them.

Here's the secret:

You are already more than enough.

You are beautiful just as you are. You are talented, and the world needs your gifts.

The next time self-improvement overwhelm starts to set in, try these mantras instead:

I am talented, and I want to hone my skills so I can bring more joy to others (and to myself).


I am beautiful, but I want to feel more sensual in the new year.

Get the idea? When you approach self improvement from a place of fullness, you're able to ditch the anxiety that comes from having a mindset that's founded in scarcity. That way, you can focus all your energy on what you want to grow.  No amount of goal setting, desire mapping, card reading, or journal writing can take the place of knowing your worth.

Finally, as you start to create your mantras and goals for the new year, ask yourself this: are you using self improvement as a reason to procrastinate doing the real work of life? Remember: there's never a good time to start, and you'll never be "ready". Don't wait. Start today. The world is waiting for you.

Wishing you a joyful, prosperous, magical new year! xx

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